When the Pain of Rejection Takes Over

Concealed; buried beneath the mask people have grown accustomed to, is a world you’ve struggled to hide. In your world, crying means weakness.

Letting someone in is too risky. There’s no telling if they’d stay or if they’d leave like everyone before them.

You’ve learned to numb the pain. No one notices the effort you put into the simple task of asking for help, so you stop.

You tell yourself you’d be better off if you stopped trusting altogether. People only abandon and abandonment is too much to bear.

The pain of rejection has taken over and you don’t see a way out.

Rejection takes on many forms. Your mom or dad walks out. Friends betray you. The one person you trusted uses your vulnerability to their advantage.

The more people leave, the harder it becomes to open up and trust someone else.

Though I, personally, haven’t dealt with rejection at an extreme level, many people have confided in me and relayed their stories of pain and betrayed trust.

The cycle is always the same. When one has been hurt over and over again, it’s only natural to try and avoid the pain. That’s why we see countless people bottling everything up inside, afraid to be vulnerable and ask for help.

If that’s you, I want you to know that it’s okay to hurt. It’s okay to feel angry. It’s okay to not be okay. 

Back when Jesus was on this earth, He tried reaching out to His hometown. The people who were supposed to support Him the most rejected Him.

His entire life, Jesus was ridiculed by those who should’ve cared about Him. Perhaps that’s why He understands our pain so well.

Psalm 27:10 says, “For my father and my mother have forsaken me, but the Lord will take me in.”

I’m not saying a few Bible verses can make everything perfect again. That’s not the way life works. What makes the difference is the steps you learn to take.

When the pain of rejection takes over and causes us to withdraw ourselves from the people who truly care about us, it isn’t easy to trust again. The smallest first step is what counts.

Reopen yourself up to God. Choose to be vulnerable with Him, even if that means crying or yelling how you feel. 

“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.” (2 Corinthians 1:3-4)

There is hope. You’re not alone in this journey. Your pain doesn’t define who you are. The people who have rejected you don’t determine your identity.

Take the first step and see what happens. Rejection doesn’t have to win.


*We are not licensed counselors and, therefore, cannot give professional advice. We encourage you to talk to a trusted mentor or Pastor as they can better determine what to do in your current situation.