What it Really Means to Guard Your Heart

For her, this wasn’t just any ordinary crush. This guy was amazing. He was funny, talented, and handsome.

Days went by and the sweet, teenage girl dreamed of when she would see the nice, young man again. Though they only saw each other once in awhile, she found herself thinking about him numerous times throughout each day.

Little by little, the young woman attached herself to the attention she received from this guy.

She had no intention of actually dating him, but it was nice to be noticed and liked by someone. There was no harm in encouraging him, just a little, right?


I’m guessing that you have been in a situation somewhat similar to this one. A young man catches your eye and you suddenly find yourself thinking about him all of the time.

Though it seems harmless at first, an emotional attachment starts to form. You gradually and unintentionally start to give this guy pieces of your heart.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23

That Bible verse is one of my top favorites. When I applied this verse to how girls should act towards young men, the first thing that came to mind was not to give pieces of my heart away by dating numerous guys.

However, I started reading through a book called “Before You Meet Prince Charming” by Sarah Mally.

And, as I studied what the Bible had to say about giving away my heart, I realized that guarding my heart in the context of romance was a whole lot more than simply not dating.

As I think about all of the times when I was disappointed that I didn’t get the attention I was expecting from someone, I see that maybe I wasn’t guarding my heart as much as I’d thought.

Though I try not to get too carried away with crushes, I still know that I can do better at guarding my heart than I have been.

It’s easy to get wrapped up in emotion that we let down the guards of our heart when the time isn’t right.

So, what can we do about it?

Choose to see the beauty in God’s plan.

I could spend all day telling you what you’re supposed to do as a Christian. I could go on and on giving you a list of what you shouldn’t be doing, but what good would that do? I mean, there’s no way you’d actually want to listen to me if I just gave you a list of rules.

God doesn’t want us to guard our hearts simply because ‘it’s the Christian thing to do’. He wants us to see and understand why we do it. I’ll just go ahead and tell you why I’ve chosen to leave my heart in God’s hands.

1) Jesus knows exactly what He’s doing.

I know that God has a plan for me. Jeremiah 29:11 says that His plan is to give me hope and a future! Anytime I’ve given a situation over to Christ, He never fails me. I struggle sometimes and go through trials, but He is right here with me.

By giving my heart to Him, I know that He won’t trample it or toss it around. Instead, He will cherish it, protect it, and prepare it for the man that He is preparing for me. That’s pretty exciting, right? God isn’t going to break my heart over and over again; He’s saving me from that!

2) A beautiful love story is being written.

Song of Solomon 2:7 talks about not awakening love until the time is right. We don’t have to be running around chasing after love or getting guys to like us. So much drama, heartbreak, and pain come along with that.

I want you to think about something a minute. Right now, somewhere in the the world is your future husband. He’s alive and breathing and God is preparing Him to meet you. Isn’t that crazy? Christ is writing a love story so beautiful, we can’t even imagine what it will be like!

Why spend your time trying to catch the attention of numerous guys or chasing after premature romance? Just think of how amazing it will be when you have saved your heart for the man you are going to marry!

You can trust God with your heart; He won’t break it.

It’s not too late to commit your heart to Christ. Even if you’ve messed up before, He can make you pure and new.

Guarding your heart isn’t about missing out on life; it’s about trusting your Savior, Jesus Christ, to cherish you and protect you from the pain of heartbreak.

Just as Jesus has a plan of hope for me, He has a plan of hope for you too!

What do you choose?

Will you trust God with your heart?

I encourage you to pray and ask God to help you guard your heart. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, just tell Him what’s on your mind and claim His promise that He has a plan for you!

If you have any questions or comments about what it means to commit your heart to Christ, go ahead to my contact page and email me!

Hey Girls! It’s such a blessing that we can encourage you in your walk with Christ, however, we are not licensed counselors and cannot offer professional advice. If you are seeking help and counsel, we strongly encourage you to talk to a trusted adult such as your parents, a godly woman, or a pastor. They can better guide you, as they are able to know the details of your situation.