New Year; New Me (and Other Lies You’ve Been Telling Yourself)

5. 4. 3. 2. 1. Happy New Year!

And so it begins. We celebrate. We set goals. We make promises. The last year stays behind as we start anew, breathing in the sweet aroma of a new beginning.

The thrill of the new year fills most of us with a desire to become a better version of ourselves. As 2019 comes into view, we take careful notice of things we’d like to change in order to make more of our lives than we did the year before.

Nevertheless, along with all this excitement comes a shocking truth; we are lying to ourselves.

New Year; New Me

This common phrase decided to pop into my life, causing me to think about what I want to change for 2019. Though making changes is all fine and well, I’ve come to realize that I’ve been deceiving myself. And, perhaps, you have too.

Whether we realize it or not, most of us look to our accomplishments for some sort of value.

We make goals, promising ourselves that this year will be different. While I have nothing against making goals (it’s something I truly enjoy doing), I do have a problem with finding my value in something that could, and probably will fail.

Being a writer, I take pride in the articles I write. It makes my day when someone tells me that something I wrote helped them through a difficult time.

There’s nothing wrong with being good at something and receiving affirmation. 

However, there are times when I find myself slipping into a dangerous mindset. I remember feeling discouraged and inferior when a friend got noticed for their writing skills and desire for ministry.

Though I should’ve been happy for them (especially for the fact that they wanted to use their gift for ministry), I felt that they had entered my territory.

I was placing such a good amount of my identity in writing that, whenever someone else got noticed for it, my sense of pride and value decreased.

Your identity isn’t found in what you do, but rather, in the One who created you. 

Each year, I come up with three or four goals I hope to achieve. Now, if I’m being honest, those goals usually take a back seat when I enter into my normal routine of things.

Nevertheless, going into the new year with a fresh start can be beneficial.

It’s okay not to reach all of your goals. Chances are, many of us will be setting different goals in the first couple months of the new year.

Whether you plan to change things for 2019 or not, be sure of one thing.

The “new you” isn’t found in a fresh start or a new year.

Your identity isn’t found in what you can accomplish or how good you are at something.

You are found when you make the decision to place your identity in the One who gave Himself up for you. 

So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. (Genesis 1:27)

Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God— (John 1:12)

What about you?

Do you feel the need to prove yourself in order to be valuable?

How does your perspective change when you find your identity in Christ?