How to Become the Sibling You’ve Always Wanted

Guaranteed, we’ve all had times when our siblings got on our last nerve. We’ve also had times when our siblings surprised us and we couldn’t wish for a better brother or sister.

Whatever the circumstance, the relationships we develop within our family are some of the most crucial relationships we’ll ever have. As a young woman with 3 sisters, it can be a bit chaotic at times.

However, in spite of the hardships, I truly believe that the way we interact with our families matter.

That’s why we’re going to take a look at how we can become the sibling we’ve always wanted.

1. Be Quick to Listen

As human beings with a natural tendency to spurt out our own opinions, it’s easy to put the art of listening aside. After all, we want to be heard and, if we’re going to be honest, the simplest way is to talk before we listen.

I love how James puts it in James 1:19.

It says, “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”

When my younger sisters invade my space or go around the house singing the same line over and over again, my first response is to get irritated and communicate for them to stop.

According to James, I should be slow to anger, meaning, even if my siblings get on my nerves, I need to fight my battles wisely.

It means a lot when people go out of their way to listen to what I have to say. Why not be that person for someone else?

2. Plan Small (or big) Surprises to Show You Care

When I was younger, Kiertsin (my sister), planned an entire scavenger hunt in our backyard. She put the whole thing together herself and even had a prize waiting at the end for when I finished.

We both had a great time as I searched for clues and she laughed at my many mishaps along the way. All in all, it was an amazing bonding experience and a fun way to spend time together.

Strong relationships are built on strong foundations. 

In order to build our siblings up, we need to be available in the hard times, but we also need to get involved in the good times!

Plan a special surprise for your sibling. It could be anything from a scavenger hunt to a hot chocolate date to a day dedicated to simply being together. Get creative and have some fun!

3. Let Love be Your Anthem

Nobody’s perfect. Not your parents. Not your siblings. Not even you (whoa, crazy, right?).

The fact is, people mess up. It’s up to us to speak with love in any situation.

That doesn’t mean we should let our siblings walk all over us. What it means is that, even when we’re hurt by our family, we need to deal with it with love and respect.

Ephesians 4:32 says, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

When we wish our siblings were a little more considerate or a little less pushy, let’s evaluate ourselves.

Are we allowing God to work in us and shape us into the people our siblings can look up to?

Challenge: Pick one of the examples above and put it into action with your siblings this week. Tell me how it goes in the comment section below!

  • Hazel

    Such good ideas! As an older sibling myself, I totally relate! ~Hazel