How to Become a Woman of Prayer

I settled into bed. Another day had gone by and I was exhausted! As I laid my head on my pillow, I realized that the only time I’d spent in prayer that day was before meals and with my family before bed.

How did I forget to talk to God all that time?

I shot up a short prayer and fell asleep. Sadly, that was a habit I had gotten into. I wasn’t happy that I wasn’t making time for God, but I felt so busy and tired (especially trying to get up early to pray and read my Bible) that I had just accepted it.

My parents had encouraged me and reminded me to make time for God, but when it came time for me to remind myself, I didn’t make it my first priority. Instead of a blessing, I counted my time with God as a small burden.

What I needed was motivation and self-discipline.

As I realized what habit I had gotten into, I was shocked! If was supposed to be a Christian, a follower of Christ, why wasn’t I growing in my relationship with Jesus?

The truth is, I had just gotten so busy and preoccupied with the list of things I had to get done.

I squeezed God into my schedule instead of planning my schedule around my prayer time with God.

I’m sure all of you know the feeling of just being too busy for God. Am I right? You want to get to know Jesus better, but you just can’t find the time.

Well, don’t give up! Prayer time doesn’t have to be a burden, it can be a blessing!

Over these past few weeks I’ve been really trying to focus on letting God lead my life. And I can’t do that without developing a deeper friendship with Him. I want to share with you what made the difference in my prayer life.

So, without further ado, here’s How to Become a Woman of Prayer!
1. The desire has to be there.

Do you ever have a long list of things you need to get done, but you just don’t feel like doing them? I know that feeling all too well.

When you look at your tasks as just a list of things you have to hurry up and get done, it becomes a burden, right?

It’s really easy to look at your time in prayer as just another task on your list. Instead of a special time to pour out your heart to God, it becomes a burden.

In order to actually having a beneficial prayer time, you have to at least have a desire to talk to God.

A couple of the verses that totally changed my perspective why I should talk to God anyway are in the book of John in the Bible.

John 8:10,11: Jesus is speaking here. “He said to her, “Woman, where are those accusers of yours? Has no one condemned you?” She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said to her, “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more.”

Instead of just going through the motions, it’s important that you understand why a relationship with Jesus is so valuable.

Just as Jesus said “Neither do I condemn you” to the woman, He says that to each and every one of us! No matter what we have done, nothing can separate us from God’s love.

When that sunk in, I couldn’t help but want to have a personal relationship with Jesus!

2. You need a plan.

I can’t tell you how many times I got so busy and spent only a few minutes with the Lord. With school, work, and daily tasks, it’s hard to find the time to take some time out for prayer.

What you really need is a plan. Start out your morning with God. You might have to get up a little earlier, but it’s the perfect start to your day!

I want to share with you the plan that I’ve been doing.

Morning: One verse that inspired me to have morning devotions is Psalm 5:3. It says, “My voice You shall hear in the morning, O Lord; In the morning I will direct it to You, And I will look up.”

My mom suggested that I choose either a certain book of the Bible or a certain topic that I could study everyday. Since I really never dove too deep into the book of Ecclesiastes, that’s what I chose to study.

I’ve been getting up at a decent time to read a portion of a chapter and write down my thoughts on it, along with a prayer asking God to help me to live a life of love and to glorify Him in all that I do. It’s been a great blessing! I now have something specific to dwell on throughout my day to help me honor God with the choices I make.

Evening: My mom bought me an adorable journal that would be great for daily journal entries. So, I decided to take time out each evening to write about what God taught me that day. I normally write down a verse that goes along with what I wrote and a small prayer at the end.

Something else that has helped me open my heart up to God is turning my closet into a war room (for those of you who haven’t seen the movie, War Room, I basically cleaned out my closet and now post prayers and Bible verses on the wall). This has given me the opportunity to spend some time in prayer; just me and God.

3. Get into the habit of consistently taking your requests and thoughts to God.

Philippians 4:6,7 says, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

Prayer is a powerful thing. God is here all the time; 24/7. He understand everything you go through. He cares about every one of your needs and desires and always has your best interest at heart.

I really encourage you to start praying about everything. Literally. It doesn’t have to be a super long speech. Simply just open yourself up to God.

Though I haven’t always had this habit, I now find myself constantly talking to God. Whether it’s something like, “Lord, I really need your help right now. Please give me the courage to do this.” Or something like, “Thank you, God! I know you’re always here for me.”

I sometimes find myself in situations of fear or frustration. It helps so much when I take a minute to tell God about the situation and ask Him to help me trust that He’s in control. Just being in communication with God throughout your day will seriously turn it around.

Being a woman of prayer is truly amazing!

God knows what’s best for you. He understands how you feel. Don’t try to take things into your own hands. Give all your requests and doubts to God and trust that He knows what He’s doing.

Thoughts? I’d love to hear from you in the comment section below!
  1. What are ways that have helped you stay in constant communication with God?
  2. Is it ever hard for you to view prayer time as a blessing instead of just another task?