Guest Post by Caitlyn M.
“Some girls like to chase boys. I like to boss them.”
I saw this quote on a bumper sticker one day, and it reminded me of the feminist mindset that is so prevalent in the world today. These words could easily be the slogan of many girls today, who embrace the feminist mindset and lifestyle.
I see the feminist movement overflowing in the media these days. I’ve heard of women who refuse help from others in an attempt to demonstrate how “strong” they really are. Often times, they try to prove that they’re better somehow than men and can do everything that men can do and more.
What does true confidence and strength look like? Does it look like the feminist mindset?
A truly confident woman is one who…
1. knows who her God is, and who she is in Christ.
2. exudes Proverbs 31 kind of womanhood.
3. finds confidence in God rather than in her abilities.
4. knows that she is loved by God and His approval is all that matters. For her, He is enough.
The list above gives you a glimpse into what being a confident woman looks like. There is a startling, yet amazing contrast between modern-day feminism (plus its false version of confidence) and God-centered womanhood (and the true confidence that arises from it).
Many times, feminists try to validate their worth to others, often in a subtle way, but sometimes forcefully. They put all their seemingly good qualities on display so others can see.
As I’ve already mentioned, they also often refuse help from others, especially men. In doing so, they think that they’re showing themselves to be somehow “better,” and “stronger.”
Feminism comes from being confident in self and what self can accomplish. To boil it down, feminism comes from not knowing your true worth as a woman. One of the biggest goals of feminism is to diminish and even discard the equal yet beautifully different gender roles that the Lord has given us.
It encourages women to be something that they were never meant to be in the first place.
Confidence in Jesus, on the other hand, is the opposite. It’s lovely and selfless. It is not rooted in pride, and it comes when we lay aside self and gain strength from Jesus.
When we’re confident in God, we’ll know who we are. We’ll stop striving to be “better” than men, or others in general. We’ll remember that God created us with the same value, but that our purposes are different.
We may not be meant to be strong leaders in the same way that men are, but we’re still meant to be strong and confident…just in a different way. Here’s a little snippet of what confident, godly womanhood looks like from Proverbs 31:
“Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: ‘Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.’ Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.” (Proverbs 31:25-31)
The woman portrayed in this passage is clothed with strength and with dignity. She’s wise, and uses her words for uplifting others. She works hard and is far from lazy and idle.
Those who know her (especially her children and husband) call her blessed, but not for who she is or what she has accomplished. She has a beautiful character and Godly, hard-working qualities.
Among all of this, she isn’t trying to throw herself at anyone or prove anything. She’s simply fulfilling her calling as a wife and mother, and, most importantly, she fears God.
This woman is working diligently with the tasks the Lord gives to her and living her life wholeheartedly for Him, rather than trying to deceive and be something she is not. Whether you’re single, married, or in another season of life, true confidence and Proverbs 31 womanhood is something we should all strive after.
1. knowing where God has us in life right now and utilizing all that He gives us for His glory. It is not trying to be someone who He never intended us to be, but joyfully living the plans He has for us.
2. using our time, our words and our lives wisely, for Jesus, and laying pride aside.
3. understanding our role as women and choosing to live that out, despite what the world says.
4. While the self-promoting, false confidence of feminism crumbles, confidence in God lasts. He is, and always will be, enough.
I’d love for you to comment below and answer these questions:
Which are you more confident in: yourself, or God?
How have you embraced the feminist mindset, even in small ways?
How can you make changes today to be confident in Him?
Caitlyn M. is a young lady who loves the Lord and strives to live for Him. She hopes to encourage and challenge others to live for the Lord through her daily life and writing. She likes writing, reading, making crafts, hand-lettering, hanging out with friends, and playing her guitar and ukulele. You can check out more of her writing at her blog,youaresaltandlightblog.