4 Bits of Advice Married Women Want us to Hear

“Don’t try to figure out everything about singleness, romance, relationships, and marriage on your own. Choose to tap into the endless wisdom and counsel available to you from the godly women in your life.” (Love Defined page 230)

It’s the last week of our summer book club! This past week we read the last two chapters of Love Defined– chapters 17 and 18. It’s time to take a few more bits of advice and start living out what we’ve learned this summer.

Let’s take a look at 4 common questions single women ask and find out some great answers from women who know what it’s like to be married!

1. How can I, as a single woman, best prepare to be a helper to my future husband?

Yvonne Welch, married since 1966, points out that many brides look to their husbands to satisfy their deepest desires of her heart. She expects him to fulfill all her needs, but is often disappointed when her expectations are left unmet.

Though marriage can bring about much joy and fulfillment, only God can give total and complete fulfillment.

We, as single women, can prepare ourselves to be helpers to our future husbands by choosing to take all of our needs and cares before the Lord on a daily basis. When we count on God to fulfill our desires, we can better help and serve others.

2. What is one character quality you would encourage me, as a single woman, to start developing now in preparation for my future marriage?

Kimberly Wagner, married since 1981, says that she didn’t realize how much she needed the character quality of appreciation until she reached a critical state in her marriage.

“Appreciation goes beyond gratitude’ it communicates value- not only gratitude for what someone can do for you, but appreciation for who they are and for the potential of who they can become.” (Kimberly Wagner).

Cultivating the art of appreciation will help us encourage our future husbands to be a spiritual leader.

3. What are some practical ways I can build a strong relationship with God now, as a single woman?

Heidi Baird, married since 1982, brings up 3 life-changing habits that impacted her relationship with God.

  1. Get up early with a notepad and Bible, then write out as many character qualities about God as you know (God is patient, God is loving, etc.)
  2. Pray and ask God to help you know him more deeply and intimately.
  3. Choose one of the character qualities, find a few verses that go along with it, and meditate on that for the day.

These 3 habits really helped her become closer to Christ and build a stronger relationship with Him.

4. What practical homemaking skills would be helpful for me, as a single woman, to develop?

Barbara Rainey, married since 1972, encourages us to make our current house a home by loving all those who enter and by making it a place that people want to be.

However, she points out that the most important homemaking skill is surrendering ourselves to Christ every single day. It’s His presence that makes a house a home.

Key Scripture Verses

Titus 2:3-4 “older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children.”

Discussion Time

What value do you see in learning from other women?

List 2 ways that your life would specifically benefit from having a mentor.


And, now, for the summer mystery giveaway!

The winner is…drum-roll please….MARCIA MCKENZIE*! Yay! Congratulations!

The fun part about this giveaway is that it’s a mystery! You won’t know what’s in it until it arrives!

Thank you all for being a part of Embrace Purity’s first summer book club!

*You will be notified, by email, that you’ve won. You will have 48 hours to respond, otherwise, another name will be drawn. Congratulations!