You’re sitting on the couch, minding your own business, when your dad calls you over. Little do you know what he was about to say.
“So-and-so met with me today. He’s interested in pursuing a relationship with you and wanted to talk to me about it first.”
You stand there in utter shock. What? Someone is interested in you? He even met with your dad first?
Things like this are a pretty big deal. When a similar experience happened to me, I wasn’t quite sure what to think. It was the first time anything like that had happened in my life.
How can we know when we’re ready to enter a relationship?
Unfortunately, there isn’t a magical age that makes us ready, but God doesn’t leave us to figure it out on our own. Below are some questions to ask yourself if you are considering a relationship.
These questions are handy to keep in mind if you’re looking for a fresh perspective. Above all, seek the Lord, pray, and talk to the godly people in your life.
10 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Entering a Relationship
1. Do I make my relationship with Christ my top priority?
2. Is the fruit of the Spirit evident in my life? (Galatians 5:22-23)
3. Do I have a servant’s heart?
4. Is this a relationship that my parents will support?
5. Will this relationship draw me closer to God or draw me away?
6. Am I at an age where I can seriously consider marriage?
7. Am I talking to God about this and allowing Him to speak to me?
8. Are we prepared to set up boundaries to keep our relationship emotionally and physically pure?
9. Are we on the same page spiritually?
10. Are God, my parents, and the godly people in my life leading me to enter this relationship?
These are questions that need to be addressed before entering a romantic relationship. God wants the best for all of us- especially when it comes to who we are going to marry!
I encourage you to also turn these questions around on the guy you are interested in (i.e. instead of asking “do I have assurance of eternal life”, ask “does he have assurance of eternal life”).
Don’t rush into a relationship with the first guy that comes along. Just because he might ask your dad for permission doesn’t mean it’s your only opportunity to begin a relationship (though going to your dad is a good sign that he respects you and your family).
Follow God’s leading and He won’t steer you wrong.
If you believe that God has led you to begin a relationship, be open with your family and the godly examples in your life. Prayerfully move forward and ask God to open your heart to His voice.
Would you add any more questions to this list? Tell me about them in the comments below!
Hey Girls! It’s such a blessing that we can encourage you in your walk with Christ, however, we are not licensed counselors and cannot offer professional advice. If you are seeking help and counsel, we strongly encourage you to talk to a trusted adult such as your parents, a godly woman, or a pastor. They can better guide you, as they are able to know the details of your situation.